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"You are the Writer, Director & Producer of your life." Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht
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You are cordially invited to attend an online workshop on my FaceBook Fan Page. While I will post some of our work here, this is only a taste of the Program.
Releasing Old Stories & Drama Coming out from behind the metaphorical rock is easier for some than for others. A lot depends on your past & present level of drama, as well as your family emotional & medical history. If your early years contained lots of punishment, including criticism & humiliation, you tend to attach those to your daily life moments & to your addiction or eating issues. If your family practiced poor eating habits & there is a history of adult onset diabetes, circulatory & heart disease, along with other chronic conditions and/or addictions, including alcohol, drugs, nicotine or others, you may or may not have difficulty coming out of hiding because of the physiological & psychological reasons. You may have failed many times, not being able to manage your hunger levels, thinking something was wrong with you, but not knowing what. The mystery may keep you from trying something different. Sometimes, people with eating issues feel shame, not only about themSelves, but about the habits of their families. I've met so many patients throughout the years who became "addicted" to not being like their family because they were so ashamed of the secrets that went on behind the walls. There is also the fear of not being loved or accepted if one were to change, especially in co-dependent relationships. Food addiction, especially sugar & high glycemic carbohydrates have woven physiological & psychological components. This was the problem that I had & even though having the ability to be very disciplined in other areas, I was not able to break through this food-related addiction. I remember being so crazed by this that I felt like I should be institutionalized. Obviously, this was a very low moment for me, but the truth of the matter was that I simply could not understand why I couldn't stop some of the things I was doing. It was like some other being took over my body & I was just the observer. The things we bring out from behind our rocks will all be different, but they will all be "old dramas & stories." Here's the moment of truth...we only two choices with what we bring out....we either choose to keep them & keep talking about them OR we choose to change. I'm sure that you know plenty of people who have chosen to keep their "old dramas & stories, perhaps even adding more fictionalized episodes to them." They talk about their weight, dieting, foods that haunt them, why they can't change, when they might be able to change if they could change, which, of course, as the drama/story goes, they cannot. Some of the stories go back decades & all set out to prove that they are imprisoned by these, keeping them victims. No one can save them. People have so many versions of old food stories that they could publish volumes. One day, I think I was standing by the water cooler at work, I became aware of a tremendous tension in my body. In that moment, I decided that I had enough of listening to others & responding with my own competitive versions of "I'm a bigger victim than you are." That moment was almost like being stung by a bee. It came as a powerful THOUGHT, almost like a "mind-blast." You know the kind. I simply knew that I didn't want to hear another word about food issues & that I had to dig mySelf out of my own hole. There was only one shovel & I owned it. Here are some truths. In addiction, or anything else for that matter, what you think is what you attract, so if I was continually "feeding" my mind with my food stories & those of others, I was making my issues worse. On that day I told my colleagues that I wouldn't be sharing in any of these conversations any longer & that while it didn't have anything to do with my respect for them & I certainly wasn't judging them, it just wasn't what I needed to be doing. Even though I said this in a kind way....goodness me! What a reaction this caused!! It was quite obvious that this "food thing" was a highly emotional topic & very personal. In that moment I felt alone & realized that I wouldn't be spending any more time at the water cooler. I had another experience on an email discussion group. I sent a post suggesting that instead of repeating what we believed we couldn't do, that we should work on "writing new stories" & placing ourSelves inside of these, inviting our subconscious mind, Higher Self or Power or whatever one believes in, to help out & to turn in the direction of health. It didn't take long for an email to arrive in my mailbox dropping me from the group. What this told me was that people preferred staying behind the rock where it was safe, but of course, that is just an illusion & a dangerous one at that. My own family wasn't especially intrigued with my ideas either. But at least they didn't drop me! From that day on the "old stories" were off the radar. As I began to walk a new road, I sensed a lot of fear in my family. I never suggested that they should change, but seeing me change was very threatening & I had to wear my "courage coat." Now, as a Clinician & Educator, I do believe that we must face these old dramas & stories. Going further, we must take them apart & that is for several reasons. If we don't face them, then it is difficult, if not impossible to heal them. What's very interesting is that as we face them, open them & communicate with them, these very parts of the "old stories" will take us into the areas of healing that are often hidden from consciousness. This is why we utilize "interactive self-hypnosis." As you stick with me, we'll get into this type of specialized imagery. But, for now...I'd like you to take some of your "old story books" that you brought from behind the rock & write down their titles. After you do that, find a place for them in the "library of your mind"....on a back shelf, where they can be made available for some work we can do later. Here are some of mine. You could also call these your "beliefs." "I'm Sugar Addicted" ohh...there are so many more, but this is it for a start. Copyright 2010 Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht |
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You are cordially invited to attend an online workshop on my FaceBook Fan Page. While I will post some of our work here, this is only a taste of the Program. I have asked all of you to come out from behind your "hiding rock" & while you may notice others coming out with you, because this is the way "imagery of the mind" works, each of you will come alone. Here's why. You were born alone & will die alone. The place in-between is called "Your Life." Please repeat that aloud! This is not the life of anyone else, but Your Life. It doesn't belong to your mother, father, children, husband, significant other or anyone else. It's very important for you to understand this, because most people with eating issues are co-dependent & have been since early childhood. Unfortunately, those of us who have eating issues & I include mySelf, live lives that are so intertwined with the lives of others, that we often don't know where we end & others begin. This is what we'll call a "co-dependent mindGame" & it needs to end because here we are beginning a new Journey. Now, I already hear your question because I've heard it so many times, even from my own co-dependent self. How can I be separate from others & what about my responsibilities to others? The first part of the question is easy to answer. When your umbilical cord was cut, you were separated from your mother. Yes, she & others brought you up, but you were a separate being from that moment forward. Even when you believed that you were connected, that was a fictional story you told & sold to yourSelf. Perhaps you fell in love with the story & maybe you're still in love with it. Being separate can be both easy & difficult. It can be enjoyable & painful. Here's a sample of a descriptive "life script." You were taught things & then you went off into the world to practice them on your own. Sometimes you succeeded & other times you fell down, but then you got up & learned from the fall. In some parts of the story of life-script, others came to rescue you, even when you were completely capable of taking care of yourSelf. Perhaps they meant well. They loved & wanted to protect you, but even so, this was the birth of controlling, often stunting your confidence in yourSelf, as well as taking away your right to figure out your own issues. In life, everything is about balance. As a child, it was difficult to see what was happening. I know you have seen children that fall down, then look around before crying, making sure they will be heard & then rescued. Unfortunately, this can become a very bad habit & is very connected to the development of co-dependency & connected addictions. Now, back to the second part of the orginal question, the part about you being "first" & the notion that you are the most important person in your life. Obviously this is not my original idea. I didn't make it up & I know you have heard it before, but hearing something does not mean learning or internalizing it, so here it is again. Throughout this program we'll be working on internalizing it. You are responsible to yourSelf "first." If you don't respect & care for yourSelf, then you cannot respect & care for others. It's as simple as that. You must lead your own parade. You are the drum major & everyone else follows. It often helps to know that others also have their own parades, where they come first. This is their parade, not Yours. Image this in your thought processes. Everyone has their own life path for their own parade. We are all self-responsible for our own parade & what is magical about this, is that there tends to be less conflict between parade leaders when we live within this image. It's true that life is never without conflict, but when we meet from a position of respect & honor, first for the Self & then from the other, solving issues becomes much easier. So, just a few other things I want to share with you as we begin this journey. Once again, no one matters here except you. The changes you are going to choose to make belong to you. You own them. You don't need permission to change. Now, that may be a hard idea for you to swallow, but that's only because you've been practicing co-dependency for so long. You've grown up feeling that you are responsible for everyone & for everything. You probably live in a black & white world. Things are either good or bad. You are guilty or innocent & most of the time you are guilty. You probably stuff your emotions or express them in harmful ways, negative food behaviors falling into this category. You may have other ways of expressing your internal stuffed strife. Most of us do. These can include all sorts of things, because over the years we tend to be very creative. We may turn to alcohol, smoking, drugs including prescription, over-the counter & sometimes even illegal substances. We may have issues with shopping, hoarding, hiding, lying & most likely have a closet full of self-masks for every occasion. We are so skillful that we can pretend to be all sorts of characters, playing out all sorts of emotions, but none of them are really who we are. An unauthentic life can be very frightening, because if you don't know who you are, you may not like your authentic Self & perhaps no one else will like her either. This is pure story-telling & something you will learn to edit down the path. If you have been behind your "hiding rock" for a long time, the You that comes forward may be quite immature or perhaps You will be wearing an"inauthentic mask" glued together with guilt, shame or excuse glue. But, it really doesn't matter. All that is important is that you have come out & agreed to work with the program. It doesn't matter if you are nervous, annoyed, disheartened, depressed, afraid of failing, feeling a lack interest or anything else. If you have come out & have honestly & wholeheardedly agreed to work with this program, you are already successful. You have already begun to mature. Here everything is about growing up & accepting the fact that You are separate & self-responsible. You will learn things, you will go forward into the world, sometimes you will succeed & other times you will fall down. You will then get up, learning from your fall & go forward. It's as simple as that. You will come to understand how your disorderly eating issues are connected to your immaturity, your inability to accept being separate & self-responsible. You will learn to love, honor & respect yourSelf as a separate being. Sometimes this will be easy & other times it will be difficult. You will give up your inauthentic masks, along with many aspects of old habits & behaviors, no matter what their age. Some will go easily & others will kick & scream, but they will go. 2010 Copyright May not be reproduced in any fashion without permission of the author. Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht |
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Workbook Day 16 - Smaller Bites!
The great end of life is not knowledge, but action."......Thomas Henry Huxley I'm sure you know many people who are always planning to make some kind of change. They are also famous for over-planning projects, often not being able to move to action. Letting go is vital for success. As you learn the art of letting go of you thoughts, emotions and body sensations, you will find yourself letting go of other parts of your life. The more aware you become, the easier it is to let go. The Inner Coach part of this program was designed to teach the process of awareness, change and letting go in small workable segments. On the surface some of this work may appear child-like, perhaps considered as far too easy to make any appreciable change. But nothing could be farther from the truth. The answers to big dilemmas lie in simplicity. Throughout these daily lessons you are learning a large variety of tools, some meditative, some self-hypnotic, some utilizing other techniques including neuro-linguistic programming, mind management skills and specialized imagery. Metaphors or images designed specifically for you are obviously much more efficient, as they correspond directly to your present subconscious mind programs. You have already begun to do work in this way in earlier lessons. When you work with a handful of your favorites, you will find yourself making changes well beyond your current conscious dreams. You all tend to live with such limitations. Even for those trained in these processes, the limitations are still there to be reckoned with. The good news is that the mind is filled with gifts. Each time you wake yourself up to any limitation, be it a thought or emotion, you can transform it into a gift. Keep in mind that you will be rewarded with bigger gifts when you indicate willingness to work with bigger limitations. A tool you are going to introduce today is the tool of silence. Our days are filled with all kinds of noise and vibrations. Some our outside, others inside. As you become aware of noises, whether they be inside or out, you can introduce silence into parts of your day. I can well remember learning this technique many years ago. Looking into myself, I realized that the first moment I recognized noise was even before I woke in the morning. My mind radio was already turned on, churning out things to do, making judgments, the usual should list and should not list. And right there before my eyes, the infamous "to-do list." With one eye opened, I switched off the alarm, turning on the real radio in some attempt to wipe out the internal radio. During those days I even had a real radio in the shower! MIND EXERCISE This morning exercise is a good place to start. Throughout the years I have limited my morning noise to the water running, the toilet flushing, the coffee perking and small, benign conversations with my husband. NO RADIO, NO TV.. NO ARGUING. Deepen yourself now and call forth your Inner Coach. Choose a different deepening tool, one that you haven't worked with this week. Ask your Coach for the silence building file. Open it, notice you are the author and begin your review. Everything you need to know is already there. It simply hasn't been brought to consciousness. Remember to take some notes along the way. While you are at this wonderful slow brain wave state, let us go ahead and place a living, emotionalized plant. • I look for silence. NUTRITIONAL INSIGHTS: Over the years I've found that a good shopping list, as well as an unfussy nature go far in the planning of lunch. Most of us tend to eat the same things week after week and while that is fine, when you change our nutritional food choices for the better, you often get bored more easily than before. For instance, if someone liked pizza and I said o.k., eat pizza everyday, few would have a problem. But taking pizza lover and suggesting that he/she have a large vegetable salad and broiled chicken every day, that person would tend to tire of that quickly, especially if it wasn't a favorite. Keep a good varied choice of foods available, trying to eat things you really like that are acceptable for lunch. Personally, I have grown fond of brown bagging. I put quite a bit of thought into this process. Throughout the years I have developed some pretty good choices with little work. My biggest challenge is making sure that the needed food is in the house. Making extra stops to the market or thinking about food planning other than one day a week, isn't my idea of high level living. Your Inner Coach is always willing to come up with some great ideas. Once engaged in the process, you will also start to notice suggestions in magazines, as well as many other ways. For now, ask to see the "new ideas for lunch file" from the subconscious library. This is a great time to place some colorful and tasty affirmation plants. Be sure to energize them with emotional fertilizer. • I care for myself at high levels. MINDBODY WORK..... Today you are going to wake up one of your intelligence factors. You have seven types of intelligence. They include linguistic, visual, physical, musical, intra-personal, inter-personal and logical or mathematical. You are going to work with your physical intelligence through your kinesthetic or feeling sense. The more exercises you do utilizing a variety of intelligence's, the more synapses you will develop in your brain tissue. MIND EXERCISE: Go to the alpha state, sitting on the wave of the breath for a minute of so. Close your eyes if you prefer, after reading through the exercise. . Now take your hands and very lightly trace your face. Feel the entire outline, just as if you had never felt your face before. Now, take the tips of your fingers and very gently feel your eye placements, your forehead, your nose, your cheeks, your lips and your chin. Go back over the entire surface again, feeling the texture of the skin, noting and labeling at each observation. Imagine the skin covering your face with no structure underneath it, just like a paper parchment bag. Now feel the area in once again and slowly open your eyes. Note any experience. Take a few moments to record your experience. Inner observations about my face _______________________________________________________________________ Take this moment for inner planting. NOTE FROM THE AUTHOR... This experiential blog/workshop is based on my new book, "How Many Cookies Will It Take to Make Me Happy?" This book is not published as yet, but you have the opportunity to read it in it's unpublished state. If you are new to my writing, you might want to read the earlier mini-chapters. They are available on FaceBook, The PublishersMarketPlace & at the following link. Remember to scan down to find the earliest chapters & work your way up. http://beyonddisorderlyeating.blogspot.com/ |
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Workbook Day 15 - Story Telling
Death is not the greatest loss in life. Join my FB Fan Page for Complimentary mp3 Interactive Self-Hypnosis Programs Few of us know how to live in the present moment. That is one of our goals in doing this work with Your Inner Coach. As you might have noticed following the knee tapping exercise yesterday, you spend quite a bit of time in the past and in the future. Future thoughts are especially interesting. I have a student who can develop in any moment, the most imaginative future happenings related to her daughter who lives in another state. Many of these happenings are based on fears. It is interesting to note that they bear no resemblance whatsoever to the past happenings. They are pure fiction........and dangerous fiction at that. One of the things that you must remember about the functioning of the mind is "what you think is what you get." The thought actually becomes the goal. Whatever you are playing in the VCR of the mind, is what the mind sees as the goal. Now, if that doesn't scare you into becoming mindful of your thoughts, I don't know what will! I explain to my students that the mind is just like a DVD, thoughts are simply disks you play in the machine. What makes these disks a bit different, however, is that the thoughts are all chemically coded. When you play the disks, those chemicals come spewing out into the body with the potential of causing all kinds of havoc, from elevated pulse and blood pressure, to increased stomach acid, irritable bowel syndrome and a variety of other ills. The concentration wanes, putting the creative brain is put to rest. All this can happen without our awareness. By the time you wake up to your body sensations, or realize you are having emotional or concentration problems, it is far too late for the easier techniques. This is why I encourage you to work on training your brain each and every day. MIND EXERCISE. Spend a moment going down to your alpha level and then deepen further. Use a different tools this time. When you have arrived call your Inner Coach and ask for the file about old disks you have been playing recently that are not to your benefit. Go ahead and spend a few moments in review. Remember to record. _______________________________________________________________ NUTRITIONAL INSIGHTS: Let me give you a few examples. If you develop flatulence or gastric acidity following milk products, tomatoes, or other acid producers, you might cut them out for awhile, seeing if you feel better. Write this on your daily log,. After a few weeks, put the food back in your eating plan, and notice what happens. If you have a sensitivity, you will certainly know! Some common foods which cause difficulties include dairy, corn products, wheat products, as well as the acid producers like orange juice, grapefruit, tomatoes, etc. Remember that many small changes, lead to powerful outcomes. With this new information in place, think for a moment about another change that will take you further down your path to high level health and performance. Remember to commit to paper. A nutritional change that I'm adding to my new discipline is: Take yourself to the alpha brain wave state and image this new change on your programming screen AS IF it had already been in place for the past few weeks. Emotionalize it and bring it to action. See it as easy and the outcomes as better than ever expected. This exercise is a combination of interactive self-hypnosis, future pacing both images and expectations. And now, just a bit of gardening. • I care for myself at high levels. MINDBODY WORK..... Most people are completely unaware of their thought patterns and rarely do anything constructive with what automatically plays on the mind radio. Remember that all thoughts are seen as goals by the subconscious mind and that thoughts have chemical codes, actively changing the mindbody physiology, some of them radically. You alone have the power to change this process. Since most of it is unconscious, it is most important to train your brain adequately. MIND EXERCISE: You have been practicing with past and future "fantasy" thought patterns. Now I would like you to do the exercise again, but this time observing negative and positive thinking patterns. Use the left knee for the negative thoughts and the right knee for the positive thoughts. Sit with your breath wave, expecting nothing, just focusing on your belly breath with great interest, just as if you have never seen it before. When your mind wanders to the thought, label it "thought" and tap the appropriate knee. Go back and climb on your belly breath. Spend 3-5 minutes with this exercise. Try to practice it later in the day as well. Give your brain these new instructions to work with you. Recognizing your most familiar negative and positive thought patterns will allow you to catch them more frequently. Once caught, you are free to edit and open them for additional insights. Positive thought patterns are also valuable and often need editing as well. You can invite them to visit more frequently, or to connect to certain mind files that would benefit from them. For instance, at work you might like to enhance the thought patterns connected to your sense of humor emotional crayon. Time to do some recording work now. Make note of some of your most frequent negative and positive thought patterns. Before you finish up for today go ahead and do some planting. Remember to see all affirmations as positive and active. Attach powerful emotions as fertilizer. • I stay aware of my thought patterns. NOTE FROM THE AUTHOR... This experiential blog/workshop is based on my new book, "How Many Cookies Will It Take to Make Me Happy?" This book is not published as yet, but you have the opportunity to read it in it's unpublished state. If you are new to my writing, you might want to read the earlier mini-chapters. They are available on FaceBook, The PublishersMarketPlace & at the following link. Remember to scan down to find the earliest chapters & work your way up. http://beyonddisorderlyeating.blogspot.com/ Copyright 2009 Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht is author of Sugar...the Hidden Eating Disorder & How to Lick It. She is also the writer/producer of over 350 mp3/CD programs in the areas of medicine, health, prevention, addictions, self-development & sports for adults & children. http://www.facebook.com/elizabeth.bohorquez http://www.hypnosis-audio.com |
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Workbook Day 14 - Thought Popping
"For every disciplined effort, there is a multiple reward."............Jim Robn Back to managing thoughts with Awareness Banking. Why is it that thoughts just pop up in the mind? There are many reasons for this, but the most important consideration is that the mind has not been well trained. It's been left to it's own devices. This concept reminds me of when the teacher leaves the room and the kids take this opportunity to go wild. The same thing happens to the mind. When the teacher returns the disruptions might continue if he or she doesn't have good control over the class. You can gain control over your thought processes by paying attention to them as an observer. This is very different than being a participant or actor in the thought process. In an early chapter in this book you learned exercises to enhance this skill. MIND EXERCISE. Lets practice right now. You don't have to wait for a special time to practice. You can elect to practice in any moment you choose. Remember, you are retraining your brain to do much of this work for you on a subconscious level, so it is important to practice frequently. Take a moment to go to your alpha state and then go even deeper using a different skill than before. You might like to check back into the earlier chapter and find something you might like to try. This will keep your tools sharp. Once you have deepened, keep your focus on your belly breath. Before long you will find yourself up in a thought. Observe it and mind label it "thought." I'd also like you to notice what kind of thought this is, just as if you were putting them in organizational file folders.. Some examples might include: • To do thoughts I'd like you to develop your own your own filing system. As you label you thoughts you will literally place them in a file with their category or name. Follow this labeling with another trip back to the breath. Stay with the breath until you are thought-interrupted again, continuing your labeling process and filing away all thoughts. • Go to the alpha state Since you are in your subconscious mind, why not take some time now with your Inner Coach. Ask to be shown the filing cabinets and system. I'm sure you will notice that you could certainly benefit from some inner organization! NUTRITIONAL INSIGHTS: Just as the mind needs organization, so does the body. How much food do you need? The question could also be how much gas does your car need? The next question might be, "how full is the tank and how far do you need to go? If there is a long time between breakfast and lunch (more than 4 hours), or if you exercise aerobically at a high level, the body will need more fuel. It is important to eat sufficient food for your learn body mass. Look back to your blueprint and review those numbers. They are vital to the functioning of your mind and body. Your body has built-in mechanisms to teach you. Your hunger levels are one of these mechanisms. Have a look at yours. . Earlier in this book you learned the difference between body hunger and mouth hunger. It's important to review this, because there is much to learn from body sensations. If you are having a lot of mouth hunger, look at your emotional states, as well as your thought processes. Are you building excess insulin from stress? Have you been doing the body scanner and practicing emotional management with Awareness Meditation? If you have body hunger before 4 hours, look to see if you skipped a meal, ate too little, ate high glycemic foods, had extra sugars or caffeine somewhere in the last 24 hour. Don't just look at the meal before, Look to the last 2-3 meals, even if that means looking to the day before. Remember, you are the mind and body detective. This is how you solve the mystery of your sugar addiction and eating disorder. Those who do the work win! It's a good idea to start noticing if you feel hungrier when you eat specific foods. For me, one of those foods is corn, especially on the cob. My body must be very sensitive to corn sugar and I probably over-produce insulin in reaction to eating this food. Does this mean that I shouldn't eat it? Only I can decide that. I might try eating a smaller amount and certainly making sure that I have sufficient protein, as well as low carbohydrate foods at that meal. I may even decide not to eat any other high glycemic carbohydrate at the same meal and see how I feel. Looking through the magnifying glass at the way our mindbody works helps us solve our mystery. This is a good moment to decide on another nutritional change for this week. The more you learn through this Inner Coaching, the more changes you are ready to make. Knowledge clears the path for change. Now you must make the choice and then the action plan. Making changes go right along with planting affirmations. They are like the fertilizer for the change plant. • I care for myself at high levels. MINDBODY WORK..... A goal of this work is the development of a focused mind state. There are many reasons why this is such an important goal. When your mind is focused you are awake for the moment at hand. You can see the emotions, the thoughts and notice if you are on goal path or not. With mind flexibility or flow, you can gently move from where you are to where you want to be. There are many exercises to enhance this ability. In this work you will have the opportunity to practice many of these. MIND EXERCISE. Lets practice an exercise that will allow you to be even more aware of your thought processes and especially specific thought groupings. Go to the alpha level and ride your breath for a few moments. Keep your focus on the breath. When you find yourself up in the thought process, note whether this is a "past thought" or a "future thought." Place your hands on your knees, and allow them to rest there. Stay on the breath. If a past thought comes into the mind, tap your left knee. Return to the wave of the breath. If a future thought comes to mind, tap the right knee. Return to the wave of the breath. Practice this awareness exercise for five minutes or so. When you are finished, not whether you had more past thoughts or more future thoughts. You do not need to do anything with this information, other than to be aware. Practice this exercise whenever you have a few minutes. When the brain is trained it will automatically label the thoughts for you. You will become aware early on, when you are lost in the past or future. Your goal is to stay in the present as much as possible. This keeps a handle on stress chemical production and allows you complete flexibility of mind. Take some time to record this work. The actual process of recording is very valuable as it engages several senses. Also, once a goal or idea is put to paper, it becomes a subconscious planting. Take an additional moment and place some affirmations just below the alpha level. Notice how you know to do this very easily. You are learning and applying as you learn. These are tools you are applying are those of stress managing and accelerated learning. • I stay aware and awake. NOTE FROM THE AUTHOR... This experiential blog/workshop is based on my new book, "How Many Cookies Will It Take to Make Me Happy?" This book is not published as yet, but you have the opportunity to read it in it's unpublished state. If you are new to my writing, you might want to read the earlier mini-chapters. They are available on FaceBook, The PublishersMarketPlace & at the following link. Remember to scan down to find the earliest chapters & work your way up. http://beyonddisorderlyeating.blogspot.com/ |
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Workbook Day 13 - Thoughts & Etchings
The ancestor of every action is a thought."......Ralph Waldo Emerson Working with though processes is a major part of our work. The tools for this include both body scanning, awareness and active meditation. You read about these earlier in this book. It is important to work with the tools and to wake up to the fact that they are always available on your tool belt. Living in awareness is like driving a bus. Thoughts and emotions are street signs. They let you know when you are on the right road, as well as when you are not. You will come to learn that being on the right road does not mean that you don't steer the bus and look to avoid potholes. Awareness also helps us to understand that being on the wrong road is not a crime and that there are important lessons to learn including where you made the wrong turn. For this work you will be utilizing the visual and auditory metaphors of the internal radio station. Right now begin to listen to the chatter in your mind. This has been playing as background music continually. Unless you purposefully turn this radio off, or change the station, it will continue to play. Not even a chance the batteries will wear out! It is most important that you take time to give the radio a rest, as well as to evaluate the quality of programs you are playing. You will be doing this through awareness and meditative work. Earlier in the book you learned some basic techniques. In your work with the Inner Coach, you will be experiencing some different applications that are built on the basic techniques. This will give you more flexibility as you go through life. When I began my practice in stress management and optimum mindbody functioning, I found some students balked at the words meditation and self-hypnosis. I started addressing these tools as the "M" work and the "H" word. Even today I find myself having to educate on the benefits of meditation and self-hypnosis. You learned some of these earlier in this book. These wonderful tools help us to direct our body physiology, as well as our emotions and thoughts. Perhaps this is a new experience for you. As you come to work more and more with these tools you will see how they benefit your life in so many ways. They are key to managing sugar addiction and eating disorder, but you will come to find that they are so much more. As you practice begin to notice you are paying much more attention to our mind and body functioning. Perhaps you are beginning to notice your body sensations at much lower levels than before. This is real progress. The earlier you notice the body sensation, the easier it is to release it and to free your body from the production of stress chemicals. As you begin to notice thoughts and emotions at much lower levels you will become aware of the triggers to the body sensations. A familiar example is saying that someone pushes your buttons. While that can be true, what is important is not only how you push your own buttons, but the level of sensitivity of those buttons. This work will allow you to notice and adjust this sensitivity. MIND EXERCISE. For many years I taught nursing students the management of psychiatric patients. They learned to look for the prodromals, those triggers of behavior that preceded the patient's outburst. You can utilize those same ideas for yourself. . As you observe your body sensations, start to work backwards. What emotion has been hanging around you? Now go back even further..........what types of thoughts have been playing on your radio station? Think way back in your day. What were you thinking about upon awakening.? What was the very first thing you noticed on your mind? How about in the shower, or when you were brushing your teeth? How about at breakfast? What type of conversations did you have with family? What about your thoughts in the car, etc.? You get the idea. You are continually writing happenings in your book of the day. The happenings are colored with emotional crayons. These become memories and connect up with past books and future books. Past books reinforce beliefs about your experiences and future books spell out expectations that are also colored and reinforced. Slow your brain waves now and ask your Inner Coach to bring you the book you are writing about today. Remember, you are the writer/producer/director of all your happenings. Open this book and review the following. NUTRITIONAL INSIGHTS: Many people in our country eat a very poor breakfast, some do not eating. stating loud and clear, " I hate breakfast." "I have no time for breakfast." "I am nauseated in the morning." "I'm not even awake." "I find the whole idea revolting." It's not uncommon for sugar addicted people to have a coke and a donut. When I ask these same people what time do they eat first in the day, most will have something after arriving at the office, usually coffee and whatever is available in the kitchen. Certainly there is no nutritional plan in place here and the day is now set up for major sugar addiction issues. But since you are reading this book the assumption is that you are hanging up your old behaviors for healthy change. What makes a good breakfast? Please go back to your "blueprint" , reviewing the suggestions made for you. It's also a good idea to look at breakfast creatively. What are some protein foods you enjoy and would consider eating in the AM? Remember, you don't have to wolf this down the minute you wake up! Many people prepare breakfast the evening before, micro-waving it at work. MIND EXERCISE. Perhaps you would like the help of your Inner Coach or inner librarian. Go ahead and induce a visit to your alpha state. You know how to get there. Envision your Inner Coach coming forward, chatting along the way with your inner librarian, perhaps about foods you enjoyed as a child or when on vacation. Ask for the book all about creative ideas for breakfast. Notice you are walking through the supermarket and are taking new choices off the shelves, of course reading the labels. Take yourself into that wonderful little restaurant over there. Sit down and read the menu, inwardly knowing that you can prepare these things for yourself. Take some mental notes from this creative book and follow through with some notes below to further etch this important program into your subconscious mind. Since you are planting and etching, go ahead and plant these. • I care for myself at high levels. MINDBODY WORK..... Lets go back to your garden. A few days ago you were planting some powerful seeds. You planted your desires, sense of purpose, clear sensory goals, the all important planning and organizing seeds, as well as patience and perseverance. Do a mind check now and notice if you are developing a certain ease and willingness to acquire new learning and skills. Adults learn differently from children and this book is written to meet those needs. I hope you are also developing a positive relationship with your Inner Coach and that you are brining a sense of play and pleasure in relation to your work. Perhaps you might like to draw a little picture of your garden plan and place it where you can admire it during the day. All gardens need nutrition or fertilizer of some sort, mulch to keep down the weeds, as well as a good supply of light and water. There are certain thoughts and emotions that appear as weeds in your beautiful garden. You want to be on the lookout for these. The weed you are going to look out for today is a cluttered mind, one where the thoughts just keep zooming through, like taxicabs on a busy New York street. Take a moment to stop now and observe the activity of your thought processes.........are they zooming? Don't get in any of these cabs, just observe them. MIND EXERCISE: Today I would like you to practice noticing the appearance of this cluttered mind state. Every time you catch it being present, simply notice and follow this noticing by bringing your attention to your belly breath. Ride the breathe for a minute or so. This is a letting go or release application. Know that it only takes 1/200th of a second to pluck these weeds. Once you begin to wake up to them, the brain will start to be re-trained to help you with this work. The focused mind state is a very powerful ally in reaching your ultimate goals and creative thinking. When visiting your subconscious library, ask your Inner Coach for the book about weeds. Open it and spend some time in this area. Take a moment now a Send author a comment on this post
Workbook Day 12 - Seeds or Weeds?
"The beginning of a habit is like an invisible thread, but every time you repeat the act you strengthen the strand, add to it another filament, until it becomes a great cable and binds us irrevocably, thought and act".....Orison Swett Marden Through this work discipline you are beginning to form your personal goal quilt. Every one who reads this book and works with their Inner Coach has different goals. Even if the goals appear similar on the surface, such as sugar addiction or eating disorder management, weight loss, accelerated learning, improved memory and concentration, etc., the goal will take on the shape of the person, just as new shoes take on the shape of the foot as they are worn. You all love to observe people who are high achievers. This observation helps to break down the walls of impossibility. You think, "If he or she did it, there is hope for me." Sometimes however, you say it consciously, but the subconscious is right there with a negative judgmental jibe, "You'll never succeed. Who do you think you are?!" You are going to utilize role modeling at a different level of consciousness, a level where the judgment visitor cannot reach. You are going to plant seeds right into the subconscious mind where they will be nurtured, growing into beautiful prize-winning flowers, but first you must go off to the seed store to choose the seeds. One seed you will be looking for is "a strong sense of purpose." This should sound familiar by now. You saw that seed when you were looking at persistence under the magnifying glass. Next you want a "sensory rich vision." This means that the goal is very clear to all your senses. You can see it, feel it, touch it, smell it and taste it! Image the picture of your goal and enhance the picture with as much emotion you can muster from all departments. This is sensory rich visioning. Another seed on your shopping list is "a strong belief in yourself." Also pick out the seed labeled "ability to plan and organize." Remember that one? Now choose "patience" and "perseverance." Add to the pile the "ease and willingness to acquire new learning and skills," "positive mentors or coaches,", and "a sense of play and pleasure in relation to work." MIND EXERCISE. Later today take some time to go deeper down. Go to the area of your Goal-den path, stopping at several of your gardens, planting the seeds you acquired. It's a good idea to write the names of the seeds on an index card. Simply open your eyes at the garden, see yourself planting, watering and fertilizing those seeds. During the day, observe your breath, go directly to the garden, weed if necessary, water and fertilize those seeds. Take some time now to do this inner work. Check which of your seeds need the most care and make notes of these. And now some great affirmation fertilizer! Emotionalize these and place them in color and high action. While the words may be simple, the outcomes may be very complex. NUTRITIONAL INSIGHTS..... If you have been following your new nutritional guidelines that you designed, you are already noticing both big and small changes. Perhaps you notice how your hunger patterns are changing. Is it easier to get through the morning without looking for a "quick fix?" If you are a smoker, you may be finding less desire to light up. This is not a coincidence. As you get the insulin in balance, you have fewer hypoglycemic dips and therefore you feel less stressed out. Many people smoke when they feel the body sensations that accompany these insulin imbalances, or use cigarettes to quell hunger. Now this is no longer necessary. You may also find yourself getting more creative with your meal planning. This planning doesn't need to involve great cooking escapades. Of course, if you enjoy cooking, certainly go ahead, but if this is not your forte, you may still be thinking about your meals in new ways. Perhaps you have reintroduced shrimp, lobster, veal, pork or filet mignon into a noon time treat to accompany your fresh watercress or arugula salad. Eating like a king or queen. So many wonderful foods and so easy to prepare. MIND EXERCISE. Go to your alpha state and take the deepening ride a bit further down. Mini self-hypnosis journeys release stress and provide the opportunity to program the mind for change right in the moment. Once you have arrived at the level you prefer, ask your Inner Coach to come forward with some suggestions of foods to add to you meals. Perhaps take a mind journey through the supermarket or to some specialty stores in your town. Notice how many foods you haven't eaten in awhile even though you already like them. Place these in the supermarket cart in your mind. You might also etch these finding further by writing some notes to yourself. You are in a good brain wave place to plant, so please go ahead. • I'm waking up nutritionally. NOTE FROM THE AUTHOR... This experiential blog/workshop is based on my new book, "How Many Cookies Will It Take to Make Me Happy?" This book is not published as yet, but you have the opportunity to read it in it's unpublished state. If you are new to my writing, you might want to read the earlier mini-chapters. They are available on FaceBook, The PublishersMarketPlace & at the following link. Remember to scan down to find the earliest chapters & work your way up. http://beyonddisorderlyeating.blogspot.com/ Copyright 2009 Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht is author of Sugar...the Hidden Eating Disorder & How to Lick It. She is also the writer/producer of over 350 mp3/CD programs in the areas of medicine, health, prevention, addictions, self-development & sports for adults & children. http://www.facebook.com/elizabeth.bohorquez http://www.hypnosis-audio.com |
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Re: Learning Self-Hypnosis - blogRADIO - Mountain Climbing (October 13, 2008) Good post. It's interesting that you mention the impostor syndrome. Over 20-years ago, I saw Paul Newman in an interview say that he always had the When he said that, I immediately understood the feeling. Later I learned that he was I've spent the past two decades living with and learning about this common The Impostor Syndrome is a fascinating topic and the subject of my new book, "The You can download Chapter One, "Paul Newman and I" at Re: Clearing Clutter... Inside & Out (December 16, 2007) Hi Elizabeth: When I was a behavioral health case manager for a major hospital in Florida, I had A fellow nurse case manager once said to me: "I can't be sick or die yet ..... I Perhaps the greatest gift that we can give to ourselves is simplicity and a clean Freedom from accumulation allows the psyche to be less burdoned as well. It is a Releasing objects and clutter give me a place and a space to be more natural and Christina Hyland R.N. PhD Re: Working Through Self-Anxiety (December 5, 2007) Thanks for this post. I have the added challenge in my life of anxiety and panic I enjoy each and every one of your blogs. Particularly I too am an R.N. and a certified hypnotherapist. I am new Again, I really enjoy your work! Thank you. Sincerely, Re: mindART - Working with Imagery (August 26, 2007) Eliz, I am glad that I am able to comment on this post. In my ongoing psychotherapy,my therapist has told me that it is good to put down ANYTHING that I FEEL during the course of the week. Examine it, see if I can make changes and objectively observe any results be it positive or negative. Today is Tuesday August 28 and I have a session with him at 10:00. I am very excited in this session in such a way that I have created a scenario where I can be on the offensive or the defensive. I mention both of these areas in a positive way. I am sure that you are familiar in hockey,the position of goalie and that of either the offensive right or left wing or center. If I am the goalie I am trying to stop the offensive from scoring. I use this analogy because(I love hockey in the first place)which I think has a very positive outcome on what happens during this analogy that I play out in my mind. Trying to find ways to either stop the offensive from scoring or...if I am on the other side of the puck I am trying to find ways to score. I mention both of these scenarios because of the different things that come up during the course of life. Writing this down is helping me greatly. Attaching scenarios that I am familiar with that affect me in a positive manner I believe helps me a great deal. I thought I would mention these two images because I have been using them as of late and I also LOVE to work with imagery. This is a bit of a lengthy comment here but I am very upbeat on results. Thanks for this post. Re: Inside Secret Eating (July 5, 2007) That could have been me! How do I break this habit? Re: The Creative Body Connection (July 26, 2006) Seeing everything in a drawing like you put it in this article here makes me get in touch with everything a heck of a lot more clearly, Eliz. It appears that I have PLENTY of work to do since I have been diagnosed with GAD. That was about 5 years |
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Elizabeth Bohorquez, RN, C.Ht has been working & writing in the field of mindbody health, self-hypnosis, addictions, creativity & optimum performance for over 30 years. She is a graduate of Rockland Psychiatric Center, SUNY; Graduate Nurse Intern, Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center, Cornell University, N.Y. She is President & Program Designer, Sarasota Medical & Sports Hypnosis Institute, Sarasota, FL & online at http://www.hypnosis-audio.com & http://www.sugar-addiction.com She has written & produced +350 audio CD programs for adults, children, students & athletes, as well as several books in original Interactive Self-Hypnosis. She specializes in the food connection to addiction, optimum health & performance. She is the author of Sugar...the Hidden Eating Disorder & How to Lick It, as well as Beyond Disorderly Eating...the Truth About Sugar & Binging & How to Stop |
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